Post by Impero on Feb 16, 2013 8:21:46 GMT -5
I don't even have a diagnosis. I was actually diagnosed when I was a
child as ADHD, but my parents never did anything about it and just
insisted on disciplining me. After I insisted numerous times during my
junior and senior year, I got a shrink- THE WRONG SHRINK. He specialized
on interpersonal counseling and somehow turned my ADHD problem into a
conflict between me and my mother (my ass. We both realized there is no
problem and ended the appointments). After five minutes of talking and
having me draw a picture, he decided my problem was "focusing too much"
on one thought or activity and not being back in reality. He tried to
pin my problems on my feelings of inferiority- there are many, of
course, I had some truly humiliating experiences in school where the
Chinese local teachers publicly made a public example of me because I
did not focus in class or hand in assignments on time. But that's not
the crux of the issue. And here I thought hyperfocus is a symptom all
along.
While I run out of fuel on many assignments that require concentration, I
will never allow my grades to drop and will pull even consecutive all
nighters. Once, in an interval of two weeks, I think I had about 4
nights where I got less than 2 hours of sleep and 6 where I got less
than 5 because I had to get things in on time for an A+. The experience
of being consistently on the bottom of my class in elementary school,
47th in a class of 48th, is still a painful reminder that I never want
to be down there again. I know I am smart and hardworking and do not
deserve the label of "slacker" or "dork" - my SAT scores fluctuate
wildly, from a 222 PSAT to 2000 and 2030 on the first two takes, and
2260 on the third- all with minimal studying. My GPA, however, is 3.57
as I just could not figure out how to get good grades, yet most teachers
adore me and always lament about my "inconsistent work" and "Brilliant;
I wish she'd apply herself". Either this, or "she is a polymath".
Hearing that infuriates me- I AM APPLYING MYSELF, and not coming close
to getting the result I wanted. I feel invalidated.
I'm now in some good colleges even though I did not report. My counselor
told me not to because i never got any accommodation for it. He took
one look at my decent grades in a highly competitive school and high SAT
score and said: What's the problem? The way you talk, write your
college essays, behave etc. none of it points to hyperactivity... My
colleges are good, but I got into none of my reaches. Many people find
my preoccupation with transferring into my reach schools irrational. I
have even made plans about what I would do in my first year so that I
can apply for it right away. I know that if my problem had just been acknowledged and adjusted for, maybe I would be in three or four of those five schools that said no to me.
I have the fanatical urge to "right" this somehow. I am always
irrationally angry whenever I think about my life and stunted potential,
at my parents, at my school, at my counselor, the go-to guy who's
supposed to be on my side who refused to believe I have a problem,
because I'm doing fine in school, I'm articulate and can talk in a
coherent fashion. I wondered what they would say if I had actually slept
at 11 and let my grades slip to a C for late and missing work. Would
they do anything THEN? My mother always says she had the same symptoms
as me, but by "hard work and determination" she overcame them and found
moderate success. At 47, she's suffering from a truckload of health
problems because of years of "overwork", as suggested by her doctors.
Maybe she has ADHD. Maybe I'm going to end up like her, a workaholic who
destroyed her health.
I've written so many posts on so many forums about this, yet I still
can't get over that I could have gotten into my first choice. I had
everything, according to my counselor who's seen my application, stellar
recs from both teachers and himself, great essays, high test score,
decent ECs, went to their summer school and showed persistent interest,
and a 3.54 GPA by the time I applied (also, quit math after
junior year), which surely killed me at many schools. What I know is
that after matriculating to college, I will of course try to get as
close to a 4.0 as possible, while playing my three instruments and
participating in some ECs. I will try to get a diagnosis (my mom finally
consented to find me the right shrink. She sees the problem now) and
treatment- this underachieving, for the sake of my sanity at least,
cannot continue in college. But the unstructured nature of college is
likely to aggravate my symptoms and I have no idea how to go about
obtaining accommodation...
child as ADHD, but my parents never did anything about it and just
insisted on disciplining me. After I insisted numerous times during my
junior and senior year, I got a shrink- THE WRONG SHRINK. He specialized
on interpersonal counseling and somehow turned my ADHD problem into a
conflict between me and my mother (my ass. We both realized there is no
problem and ended the appointments). After five minutes of talking and
having me draw a picture, he decided my problem was "focusing too much"
on one thought or activity and not being back in reality. He tried to
pin my problems on my feelings of inferiority- there are many, of
course, I had some truly humiliating experiences in school where the
Chinese local teachers publicly made a public example of me because I
did not focus in class or hand in assignments on time. But that's not
the crux of the issue. And here I thought hyperfocus is a symptom all
along.
While I run out of fuel on many assignments that require concentration, I
will never allow my grades to drop and will pull even consecutive all
nighters. Once, in an interval of two weeks, I think I had about 4
nights where I got less than 2 hours of sleep and 6 where I got less
than 5 because I had to get things in on time for an A+. The experience
of being consistently on the bottom of my class in elementary school,
47th in a class of 48th, is still a painful reminder that I never want
to be down there again. I know I am smart and hardworking and do not
deserve the label of "slacker" or "dork" - my SAT scores fluctuate
wildly, from a 222 PSAT to 2000 and 2030 on the first two takes, and
2260 on the third- all with minimal studying. My GPA, however, is 3.57
as I just could not figure out how to get good grades, yet most teachers
adore me and always lament about my "inconsistent work" and "Brilliant;
I wish she'd apply herself". Either this, or "she is a polymath".
Hearing that infuriates me- I AM APPLYING MYSELF, and not coming close
to getting the result I wanted. I feel invalidated.
I'm now in some good colleges even though I did not report. My counselor
told me not to because i never got any accommodation for it. He took
one look at my decent grades in a highly competitive school and high SAT
score and said: What's the problem? The way you talk, write your
college essays, behave etc. none of it points to hyperactivity... My
colleges are good, but I got into none of my reaches. Many people find
my preoccupation with transferring into my reach schools irrational. I
have even made plans about what I would do in my first year so that I
can apply for it right away. I know that if my problem had just been acknowledged and adjusted for, maybe I would be in three or four of those five schools that said no to me.
I have the fanatical urge to "right" this somehow. I am always
irrationally angry whenever I think about my life and stunted potential,
at my parents, at my school, at my counselor, the go-to guy who's
supposed to be on my side who refused to believe I have a problem,
because I'm doing fine in school, I'm articulate and can talk in a
coherent fashion. I wondered what they would say if I had actually slept
at 11 and let my grades slip to a C for late and missing work. Would
they do anything THEN? My mother always says she had the same symptoms
as me, but by "hard work and determination" she overcame them and found
moderate success. At 47, she's suffering from a truckload of health
problems because of years of "overwork", as suggested by her doctors.
Maybe she has ADHD. Maybe I'm going to end up like her, a workaholic who
destroyed her health.
I've written so many posts on so many forums about this, yet I still
can't get over that I could have gotten into my first choice. I had
everything, according to my counselor who's seen my application, stellar
recs from both teachers and himself, great essays, high test score,
decent ECs, went to their summer school and showed persistent interest,
and a 3.54 GPA by the time I applied (also, quit math after
junior year), which surely killed me at many schools. What I know is
that after matriculating to college, I will of course try to get as
close to a 4.0 as possible, while playing my three instruments and
participating in some ECs. I will try to get a diagnosis (my mom finally
consented to find me the right shrink. She sees the problem now) and
treatment- this underachieving, for the sake of my sanity at least,
cannot continue in college. But the unstructured nature of college is
likely to aggravate my symptoms and I have no idea how to go about
obtaining accommodation...